What Every Girl Wants

There is no question, rhyme or reason for any of the following. Girls just want the following. Even if a girl say "oh, no, that's silly" or "I wouldn't want a guy to do that" she's just being realistic and not going to get disappointed. So, here is it, fairly simple, What Every Girl Wants:

1. Chivalry - The Code of Courting; she wants doors opened for her, she wants you to go out of your way to recognize that she is a lady, and deserves the your attention. 
2. To Win - She wants to win. Maybe you're having an argument, or playing a fun game of billiards, but she wants to win. But don't just give up and walk away [especially from an argument]. You should always stand up for what you believe in, just if things start getting too heated, tell her she's right. Many girls don't want to get caught up in the drama of everything, so it will be easier if she "wins" both of you can move on.
3. Spontaneous Dates - Surprise her! You don't want your girl to get tired of the same old thing. Get creative. Don't go crazy, just change things up or don't tell her where you are going. This is of course you can drive. From personal experience [cough] I have never actually dated someone that could drive, or that could take me out on a date. But if you surprise your girl, she will be impressed.
4. Maturity - Sounds like a given, to me at least, but we want guys to be mature. Now, granted we do want you to make a few mistakes, but just don't be rowdy, and obnoxious. If we wanted to date a kindergarten, we would, we want a boy that will treat us with respect and treat themselves and others with respect as well.
5. Romance - I could spend hours on talking about romance. You combine maturity, chivalry, and romance, and a girl will have the perfect boy. Romance is the little things, the cutesy things that make the two of you blush if you really like one another. Soft kisses, holding hands [see note below] and just holding her when the two of you are close. She'll love it, and even if she isn't such a touchy feelie person, like I am, the romance and cutesy is fun.
6. Not Being Ignored - I think this could fall under maturity, but don't be an ass. Don't flat out ignore your girl. From personal experience, I want to just go up to some people now and just smack them because they are so stupid. Girls don't want to be ignored, call us, text us, let us know you are thinking about us. We enjoy that, a LOT. Girls overthink, and probably will think about you more than you think of her, so if you text her randomly "thinking of you" her entire day will be made. Now, if you don't like the girl anymore, don't just start ignoring her. You have to be mature and confront her about it. Never EVER leave her standing. You have to talk to her, especially if the two of you are involved. 

Now, that's just 6 of the key things to remember about what girls want. Let me know what you think in a comment below, or send me an email at me@andapaige.com for advice :D

*Note: My tip of the day, is when you are holding her hand slowly stroke her hand with your thumb. It will feel more natural, and it will be less awkward than just having the limp hand syndrome. And, most importantly, she will remember that.

About Girls: You will never Understand us

Us girls take everything seriously. We over think, over analyze, and most importantly plan. Every step we take is more or less another stone of our path of life. It's hard for us to say exactly what's on our minds, because we are thinking of everything but the positive outcome. Girls aren't easy to figure out, we are hormonal and take different takes of life often. We see things out to the future then get disappointed at what really happens.
Most girls, while dating and such, think of their significant other as the possible other half of them. We can't help it, it just happens. Our minds are running with all sorts of possibilities of the future that sometimes we can't totally live for today or even yesterday, it's always tomorrow. Especially in today's world and society as women are starting to overwhelm universities, and high career paths, we do get pissed when males stand in our way.

Girls are too complicated to figure out completely, and guys are just going to need to accept that girls are nothing to just read about and quickly understand. It's a process. (That we will guide you through. That's why we're here)

Contact

Here we have another entry on the previously inexplicable actions, emotions, and tendencies of guys, primarily to help you ladies understand the unusual, different, and downright stupid things that guys do.

When you're with a guy, you need to assume that a certain level of physical contact is necessary to keep the relationship interesting and strong. Despite what most guys would openly admit, cuddling, hugging, and holding hands means more to us than you probably realize.

Giving a guy physical contact tells him that you care about him, and have a tender side specifically for him. This does not, by any stretch whatsoever, mean that you should completely put yourself out there. Contrary to what many girls would think, a guy actually is NOT solely interested in your chest and your butt. In fact, any guy who's worth your time will realize that by not putting everything forward so quickly, you have a sense of self-respect and a level of confidence in yourself that almost any guy loves.

Almost any guy wants to move forward in the physical aspect of a relationship; however, you shouldn't be afraid to initiate the next stage of physical contact (be it anything from holding hands to intimate contact) or be afraid to tell a guy that he's moving too fast for you. Us guys are never going to be happy or fully satisfied if we know that our actions are making you uncomfortable or upset, so tell us!

Remember, when in doubt, ask us. Honesty isn't that hard to come by with a guy if you know what you're asking, and if you trust the guy enough to not be afraid of the answer.

The Truth is Sad: About Guys

The Truth is Sad: About Guys

First thing's first: Women... you always, ALWAYS over-think men. Don't blame yourselves; women are, by nature, more complex in their thought processes and ideas than men are (generally). A typical guy, especially a smitten guy, may be hiding many things, but he's basically still the same simplistic being as a completely apathetic man.

If a guy likes you, chances are slim to none that he'll come out straightforwardly and tell you to your face. If you're lucky, you'll find out through a friend or through an awkward cordial phone conversation that makes you realize you're more than plutonic partners in crime (unless, of course, your intuition has already told you that he likes you, in which case he'll be the oblivious one and you'll be the all-knowing wise lady who makes him feel like an idiot for not realizing you already know).

It's relatively rare for a guy to fall for a girl without first going through the so-called "friendship phase". A physical attraction will develop regardless, but the emotional and social attraction needs to be nurtured for it to become anything; ergo, if you're in a completely (or at least mostly) sober situation, a guy who's genuinely interested in you will almost always be one who you know, and probably knows you quite well. One thing you need to understand, though, is that the longer he's known you, the less sure he'll be of your reaction to knowing that he's crushing on you. Any half-sensible guy understands that the line between friendship and romance is a delicate string, but stepping across it can be more like a minefield. Any guy who's able to at least admit his feelings to you is worthy of your attention, if only for you to acknowledge him. You don't have to say "Yes" to him if you're not interested, but rejection through communication is a lot better than rejection through silence.

That's all for now. The truth isn't always sad, but if you over-think it too much, it will become upsetting quite quickly. When in doubt, remember that if you're curious about a guy, you need to dumb down your thoughts a bit in order to understand what and how he feels about you.